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My friend Paula is an excellent writer. (bottom left) She published an article this month in The Old Schoolhouse Magazine, a publication for homeschooling families. Her article is titled, Orange Sherbet Friendship, and she mentions me and the rest of our Captivating Women group in her article. I wish I could link you to it, but it’s not published on the web. It’s too bad, but I can show you the picture that accompanied the article. Nope, it’s not this nicely posed first picture…it’s the second one.
Kristi and I were leaning over the back of the bench and I suddenly realized I didn’t want to chance a cleavage shot so I stood up to adjust myself. I told them I didn’t want to “expose the girls” which made us all laugh. That’s when Paul snapped the picture. I was a bit horrified when she told me which picture the mag had chosen for the article. Do I hurt Abi’s husband Paul for taking it, Abi for mailing it to Paula, or Paula for submitting it (among others) to the magazine? ๐Ÿ˜‰ Paula said, “No one will know what you’re doing Niki, and besides, it shows us having a good time and laughing with each other.” I told her the story was too funny NOT to tell and that I’d blog about it.

My first appearance in a national magazine and it’s a picture of me adjusting myself. Lovely. ๐Ÿ˜‰

Oh well, If we can’t laugh at ourselves once in awhile we have no business laughing at others. Wait. That’s not right. I meant we need to be able to laugh at ourselves once in a while. ๐Ÿ˜‰ It really is a stress reliever. I take myself way too seriously most of the time. These women help me lighten up. Paula’s article was about the seasons of friendships she’s enjoyed and the barren months of loneliness in between those seasons. Different seasons of our lives sometimes call forth different friendships as well. She talks about the ways she is blessed by her friends. She so often speaks to my heart, but she hit the spot when she said:

“God Himself models community for us by living in perfect harmony as Father, Son, and Holy Spirit. One of Jesus’ prayers for us in scripture is that we will be one as He and the Father are one. While this passage has to do with harmony among brethren, I also believe it addresses our need for intimacy with each other. The Lord knows we need meaningful relationships to help us along life’s journey. If you haven’t made friendships a priority in your life, take a moment to ask the Lord what He has for you in this area. Pray that He’ll show you how to be a good friend and open doors for the community He wants you to have. It may look different than you expect, but it will be just right for what God is doing in your life.”

The title of the article came from an experience Paula had a few months ago. When she was a little girl, her mother would take Paula to her grandparents house when she was sick so she could manage her work schedule. Her beloved grandpa would drive to town and bring her back a carton of orange sherbet to cheer her up. A few months ago Paula spent a few weeks in bed VERY sick. I brought her a pot of chicken soup, and Wendy brought her a carton of Orange Sherbet. Both were things that she had wanted but not asked for and somehow Wendy and I knew what to bring. God is so good like that; giving us a nudge in the direction we need to go. He used us to minister not only to Paula’s body as she was ill, but to her spirit. What an awesome reminder that He knows the intimate details of our lives and loves us deeply enough to provide for our needs, yes, but our wants as well. The article was great and I’m so proud anytime her writings are published.

Who are your Orange Sherbet Friends? Have you told them lately how much they mean to you or how God has used them to minister to your spirit? Now may be a good time to do that. ๐Ÿ˜‰ Here are a few of mine:

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Meet Becky Miller

I heard muffled giggling through the phone line as I read the back of the book to my friend.


“Faster than a speeding minivan, able to leap piles of laundry in a single bound, it’s a bird, it’s a plane, It’s…Supermom! Becky Miller is a young mom who wants to do Big Things for God. Her vivid daydreams help her cope with the pressure to be a Wonderful Wife and Marvelous Mother. Yet the tape going through her mind continues to play:

Your Mission: support your husband when he loses his job, nurture an eccentric circle of friends, raise perfect Christian children, cook delicious meals in a spotless kitchen, lead the women’s ministry at church, and live a life filled with Meaning and Purpose.

How does this supermom react when her grand plans start to fall apart? What will it take for her to turn off the tape and listen to God’s voice instead?”

I paused and asked, “So what do you think?” My friend answered, “Who is this woman and why did she write a book about you?” That was a month ago. I had been invited to take part in a blog tour to promote Sharon Hinck’s new book, Renovating Becky Miller. As excited as I was, I hadn’t even read the first book yet. So off to Family Christian I went to buy one of the last three copies available. As I read about this woman I could relate to so well, God began to speak to my heart about some things in my life. Things I have in common with Becky Miller. Like my tendency to be driven and push through when circumstances are bleak. I knew all too well her unspoken creed of “Never let them see you sweat”. Becky doesn’t know how to say “No” even when her plate is overflowing and her family starts to feel the strains of her overcommitments. She wants people to like her and think she’s fabulous at everything she does. Ouch. That one hurt God!

I laughed as I saw some of myself and my friends in Becky’s close circle of friends. Heather, the warm, loving and eccentric hippie who serves wheatgrass and healthy fare to houseguests. Doreen, the sleek and driven former corporate exec with the struggling marriage. Lori, the conservative, organized homeschooler and spiritually wise bestfriend. And Sally, the platitude spouting but good intentioned blond, bubbly, church secretary. An unlikely group tied together with Love.

“The one drawback of an honest, intimate circle of women was that on any issue you could name opinions ranged far and wide. Living stones, indeed. God was working with a pile of rocks. All different shapes, sizes, and textures.

The next hour was an oasis. Splashing in a wealth of spiritual refreshment. A ridiculous bounty of water compared to the miles of parched landscape beyond our cloistered evening. Enough to drink, enough to immerse ourselves in. Enough to wash over the dry places in our souls so we could face another week of trudging through hot sands.”

This book reminded me to seek out what is important – God’s rest and wisdom, marital unity, loving parenting, and the blessing that is a bonded group of women. Women who will lift each other in prayer, lend a hand in times of need, laugh and tease, and gently help us down from the pedestals we sometimes place ourselves on. I love Sharon’s style and witty humor. I loved the book and couldn’t wait to read the sequel.

Becky Miller believes in fixing things: children, friends, mother-in-law, sister, church . . . and her husband. So renovating a run-down farmhouse is right up her alley–the perfect antidote for the pressures of modern life. But Beckyโ€™s pursuit of the simple life is soon threatened. Her mother-in-law moves in, her son finds trouble at school, her sister arrives for a visit, her best friend is acting weird, all while work stresses mount. Worst of all, her marriage is in need of some major remodeling of its own. Cinematic daydreams provide Becky with heroic drama. Maybe thatโ€™s why she escapes into the scenes so often. In real life, everything is a muddled mess. Who knew one old house could lead them to the brink of bankruptcy? Or that Beckyโ€™s physical handicap could threaten to steal their dream? Can Becky stop fixing everyone else and let God renovate her heart so she can find her own happy ending?

Two years have passed, the children are older, Becky and her circle of friends have been there for each other through some tough times, and her husband’s new job is going well. So why does life seem harder than ever? Hadn’t she learned the hard lessons yet? Hadn’t God been telling her to slow down? It seems Becky still thinks if she doesn’t do things, they won’t get done right. Boy does that sound familiar. Once again I related to some of the struggles Becky and her friends go through and I found myself imitating my friend who talks back to movie screens. “No! Don’t do that! What are you crazy? Have you learned nothing? Bad choice! Good girl! Way to go and stand your ground!” I found myself trying to be Becky’s Jiminy Cricket. ๐Ÿ™‚

I felt Becky’s frustrations as she dealt with not living up to someone else’s expectations. I laughed when their friend Harry bounds into their remodeling project and keeps Grandma Rose on her toes and feeling feisty. I grimaced as Becky’s co-worker got caught up in the numbers game with a “perfect formula of basic math” translating into X amount of dollars spent on media outreach means X amount of souls saved. Poor Becky. I too have walked that tightrope of church work where there is always one more thing to do, and after this one activity, project, etc. I’ll have more time, more energy, and more (you fill in the blank). True to real life, when Becky finally takes some time out to pray and talk to God about her life, a thousand things interrupt their time together. I found myself cheering on this heroine as she and those she loves get more than they bargained for in the renovating phase of life. As I closed the book with a smile on my face, I began to talk to God about the renovating going on in my own life.

Learn more about Sharon and her books at http://www.sharonhinck.com/ There’s even a quiz to see which “friend” you are. Sharon is alot of fun! She found a loyal reader in me when she said:

“Life is a grand adventure, and even the small choices we make each day can be heroic.”

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